Black and White

yesterday i wrote a great deal about being judgemental. Right now i was reading the Organizational Behaviour booklet and i realized that when people say that don't be so Judgemental, they are actually talking about not passing Judgements on Other people's belief.

In any case the last logic holds that the moment you say "why be so judgemental"...you blew it and were judgemental yourself.But still i couldn't help but ponder that if it's so wrong then why still are people so judgenmental?

The reason I think is based on the fact that all of us see things in black and white. As the maslow's need hierarchy theory suggests that we are motivated by food sex and shelter...which are the basic needs.Similarly the basic need is safety and security. When we are listening to somebody we are doing a mental maths and putting it down in black and white.

Some one says something that's contrary to what we believe in .....and flashes the signal ...BLACK...danger. The safety and comfort is gone. Because it is an indicator that we cannot depend on the company because he/she thinks differently from what we do. The security of the trust is gone. Mind is doing it all the time. We keep on analyzing if we are safe or in danger. Of course the thought will seem too far fetched, but still somethings have been left with us from our days on the trees.

One of them is the survival instincts.So when you are asking me not to judge...you are asking me to be indifferent to the differences that are there in the thoughts.You are asking me to belive in a person who doesnot believe in what I believe in. You are actually asking me to overlook the differences.

Is that possible?? can we overlook differences. Can we percieve some thing to be bigger than us or blacker than us and the same time ignore the differences that exist?
I don't think so. So either you will think in terms of differences that exist or either you will think in terms of similarities AT A SINGLE INSTANCE....not both....So either it will be black or white...THINK.
bbye